Today’s Attitude of Love: Loving Your Spouse
Lets face the cold hard truth, it is often times easier to love a stranger than to love your spouse. Why? It is simple, we live with them day in and day out. They see most of our imperfections. They are the brunt of our bad days, and we all to often just simply get to comfortable. We tend to love them out of habit rather than loving them out of sacrificial love that God calls us to. Raise your hand if this is you. You wake up in the morning kiss you spouse good bye and say “I love you” as you rush out the door. Maybe a phone call or text through out your day. Then you arrive home and kiss your spouse good night and say “I love you again” as you drift off to sleep. If there is an intimate moment, it is often times out of obligation or duty rather than the two bodies joining as one in the act of love and adoration.
Sound familiar? Don’t worry you are not alone. My guess I that if we are being honest, most of us fall in that realm.
How do we stop that habit or trend and love our spouse as we have been called too? Once again, we must use Christ as our guide and our measuring stick! Marriage is the relationship in our lives that most reflects our relationship with Christ Himself. Our love towards our spouse must reflect the same sacrificial aspect of that of Christ and His love for us. Anything less than that is falling short.
So with that in mind today. I want you to one, not to feel hopeless. If you have failed in this area, as all of us do, rest assured that God is there and His Mercies are new each and everyday. Just simply ask him to forgive you in this area and ask Him to help you love your spouse like He has called you too. Then second, follow his blueprint below in the passage. Third, make your spouse and the love you show your spouse intentional. Behind God, make that your next most important area of your life. Make them feel your love beyond words. Let them know just how important they are to you each day.
This will not only revolutionize your marriage, it will buy you right in the middle of Gods Will for your marriage. God must always be first, for he is the author of love and without Him as our guide, we will fail.
Read the scripture below and go love your spouse today the way God has called you and find out just what you are missing in your marriage.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:21-33 NIV)