Loneliness – The Void Within

For those who suffer from Loneliness, it is a true battle from within. Loneliness, is a debilitating emotion that leaves the one who is suffering with a gaping hole that they will do anything to try to fill. Most people who suffer from loneliness, feel lost even in the midst of a crowd. They, by all appearances look fine, but on the inside they are crying out. Much like those who suffer from depression, there is a void inside that just doesn’t ever seem to get filled. It can have devastating effects on not only the one who is suffering, but all those around them as well. In some cases, the person completely shuts down or isolates themselves from everybody in the outside world. They may turn down invitations to do things, they may turn to drugs or alcohol to mask the pain, and in my case, do nothing but sit at home feeling unworthy of anyones love or attention. Most of us who have suffered from this, experience it alone. We don’t want to turn to anyone for help. And when we do branch out to fill the void, we choose the wrong things to fill it with. All that does is lead us right back to where we came from, and most of the time feeling even worse. The devastation for those who suffer comes from truly feeling discontented or unsatisfied. That discontentment or dissatisfaction leads to horrible choices, such as, job loss, drugs, alcohol, sex, separation with a spouse, divorce, or even affairs. When we are discontent or dissatisfied with our lives, we are searching to fill that void at any cost. Logical thinking goes out the window and we go to the first thing that pops into our heads. As you can imagine, these choices lead to devastating effects on not only the one suffering, but also to those we love. Everyone else ends up paying the price for our poor decisions. So how to we stop feeling lonely? How do we stop feeling discontented or unsatisfied? We must first be honest with ourselves and answer two very important questions… What void are we trying to fill? The second question is, what caused that void in the first place? The void, in most cases, comes from something in our past that we are desperately holding on too. Sometimes we don’t ever even realize that we are clinging to it, but it is still there. On our bodies, wounds that are left untreated, become infected. Well the same goes with emotional wounds. While with physical wounds we see with our eyes, our emotional wounds are hidden deep within and get infected too, but we just can’t always see the infection or its effects, until years down the road. The infection (void) continues to spread, eventually leading to emptiness or the feeling of unworthiness, and a path of destruction behind. Those feelings and emotions, while very painful, are all lies that the enemy uses to limit us from feeling the full effects of Gods Grace, Mercy and Love. You see, we continue as humans, to try to fill voids in our lives with everything other than God. When we do that, those fillings of loneliness,discontentment, dissatisfaction, and unworthiness all take center stage, and become the focal point. The pain is real and the void is real, but there is only One who can fill it, and that is Jesus. Read this passage below, then I will show you what I am talking about. The Pharisees heard that Jesus was gaining and baptizing more disciples than John, although in fact it was not Jesus who baptized, but his disciples. When the Lord learned of this, he left Judea and went back once more to Galilee. Now he had to go through Samaria. So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about the sixth hour. When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.) The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.) Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his flocks and herds?” Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” “Sir,” the woman said, “I can see that you are a prophet. Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem.” Jesus declared, “Believe me, woman, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews. Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth.” The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us. “Then Jesus declared, “I who speak to you am he.” ~ John 4:1-26 Now I want you to notice a couple of things here. First, the woman who came to the well was trying to fill her void with men. It says that she had five husbands and now she was living with a man who was not her husband. Notice how Jesus responds to her. There was no judgment, there was nothing there but grace, mercy and love. He knows that this woman is suffering and trying to fill her cup (void) with men. He tells her, that she will find the piece to that void in the “living water”. Jesus, no matter what size our void is, is the only thing that can fill it, heal it and restore it for His Glory. There is no judgment when we come to Him and realize what we are doing doesn’t work. There is only love and compassion. God knows what you are going through. God knows how your heart breaks on the inside while you foster a smile on the outside. He longs to fill that void, so much so that He sent His Son Jesus to not just show you, but to pay the price for you. I urge you if you are suffering from loneliness, discontentment, dissatisfaction, or feelings of unworthiness, to come fill that void with the One and only One who can fill it. He is right there with you right now, and all you have to do is cry out to Him. He is so very faithful and will heal your void better then new. Will you call upon Him today? Prayer: Dear Lord, I have searched and searched to find anything to fill this void. I have left a path of destruction behind me from the choices I have made and I need you Lord to fill that void as only you can. Father, please forgive me and come heal my brokenness. I trust in you and pray that you will turn my pain, into your Glory! Amen.


About Brad Clarke

The Christian journey takes us through many different areas in life. Our Walk with Jesus, is exactly that and is designed to encourage, inspire, and help any and all that read it.
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4 Responses to Loneliness – The Void Within

  1. If we walk with God we will never be lonely.Wonderful and inspirational article.Thanks for posting.

  2. Yes, I think it is not possible to heal oneself without God. In fact the loneliness is to be far away from God. Personally I have been suffering from loneliness and anxiety, then I started to travel and in those travels I found people who helped me, maybe it was God who sent me those people. The book I have written tells how to heal through spiritual quest for God. The title is “Travels of the Mind”, it is available on my website http://www.ettoregrillo.com
    If you have any question I am most willing to discuss about this topic.
    Ettore Grillo

  3. Mrittika Das says:

    Iam a teenager , im 15 years , I was very fine but now i feel like i am always trying to fill up my lonelyness , i feel like its a war where im just fighting with myself , trying to make myself understand something always . I feel lonely but i never find anyone with whom i will feel good or anybody who can finish my lonelyness , even if there are many people around me , i still feel the same . the pathatic part is i cannot explain this situation to anyone !!!

    • Brad Clarke says:

      Dear friend, I understand your pain, as I have been where you are and know how it feels. I want you to know that there is hope and a light at the end of the tunnel. Here is a website that I really believe will help you and also the phone number to call. Please don’t wait any longer, call them today, they will and can help you, for free. Loneliness, is a serious issue and leads to bad things if left untreated. So I urge you to find that peace you have always wanted. The website is http://888.needhim.org/g/pages.php and the phone number is 1-888-need-him (or 1-888-633-3446

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