What’s Wrong with Sex?

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Let’s face it.. Sex is one of the most common tools Satan is using today.  You see it everywhere you look.. tv, movies, commercials, even on teen nick… (which blows my mind), it is every where.  It is was and still is intended for one purpose and one purpose only… MARRIAGE!

Marriage and Marriage Only

“Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4

Sex was designed by God and it is a great, joyful experience.  However, it was and still is designed for marriage and marriage only.  It is a bond that was created by God for a husband and wife to enjoy and to become one in.


Now I am going to get very personal, so bare with me.  I too have fallen to this.  And let me tell you from experience, that sex outside of marriage will cause you nothing but heartache.  My oldest daughter was born outside of wedlock and I am still paying for that today.  Our relationship has struggled and the conflict between her mother and I has been tested to the end.


“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.”
1 Corinthians 10:13

You might think that you are going to be with a person forever and so it is okay to given in to the passion of sex with your partner, but it is not… All to often, you hear stories of couples breaking it off shortly after the give in.  Especially for young ladies.. Guys, are FULL of testosterone… and that makes us like wild beasts.  So they will say and do anything to get what they “think” they need.  And all to often the young girl is robbed of her innocence, left wondering what she did wrong.  And the fact is, she did nothing wrong except giving in.

How far is too far?

Without getting graphic, it is very important to know what is too far when it comes to sharing affections with your boyfriend or girlfriend.  So we are going to see what God’s Word says and then tackle it for today’s world..

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. ~ 1 Corinthians 7:1-7

Now what this is saying is, a mans body is not his own, but his wife’s and that a woman’s body is not her own, but her husbands.  So what does this mean about how far you should go or not go?  Well, again, without getting graphic, anything that causes you to expose or to be touched in a place that is meant for marriage is wrong.  Why?  Because you are stealing a precious part of you that was meant for your future spouse.  So, what do you do if you are in a relationship that this is happening in?  You end it… and flee, because as much as you like to think you have the power to stop it and say no, most likely you don’t if it is already happening.  One thing always leads to another and before you know it, it is too late. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. ~ 1 Corinthians 6:17-19

Continued Consequences

Now let’s say you don’t get your partner pregnant, (or if you are a lady, become pregnant).  What is the big deal then?  How about this… STD’s  (Sexually Transmitted Disease)  Still not convinced?  How about this, every time you have sex with someone, a piece of your DNA is left behind, never to be removed… So, everyone you have sex with, your partner has sex with too… and if you think about that, it is truly disgusting.

“…The body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body.”
1 Corinthians 6:13


Sex is also being used to distract and separate men and women from God.  Pornography is rapidly becoming an addiction and it is so readily available anywhere and everywhere you turn. You don’t have to look very far for it, it is right on your tv, computer, and even your iphone or itouch… yeap.. I said itouch.   And let me tell you, all it takes is one time and once the eyes see it, Satan uses that and replays it over and over making you want more.  Now there are several reasons why this is wrong, but we are going to stick with the basics… One, if you are married, you are cheating on your spouse by viewing it.  You say how is that?  Lusting after someone who is not your spouse is adultery….  Two, if you are not married, you are stealing apart of you from you future spouse.

In closing

Sex is a gift from God, meant for a husband and wife to share and enjoy.  It is one of the most enjoyable experiences you can have with one another, but only if you keep it between the confines of marriage. If you have fallen and you want to be restored.. you can.  God is ready to forgive you.. He loves you and wants you to have this joy of sex, but only in His design… Marriage.


Father, please forgive me for giving in to my lustful desires and having sex outside of your design.  Father, please restore me.  Help me, oh Lord, to remember your teachings and what you have designed sex to be.  Please help me to be strong when I am faced with the temptation to give in to my bodies desires.  Amen!


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10 Responses to What’s Wrong with Sex?

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  3. Sherry Oles says:

    Thank You !! This was very good. I was wondering is it possible to be married in Gods eyes without a legal document ? Having a spiritual ceremony with commitments to each other and God just without the legal documents ??

    • Brad Clarke says:

      Sherry, Good question. I will assume that you are referring to common law marriage. While you don’t need to make or have a formal ceremony, I do believe it is right to make it legal. You can do this at your local JP office or court house. Our marriage unions should always be made right with God in order for Him to truly bless them, otherwise we are outside of His will for our lives. Common law marriages are our ways of justifying living with someone and/or having sex outside of the marriage union, if we are being honest. Common law marriages are not what God has intended marriage to be. I encourage you to read about how God views us as his bride and the role that marriage has in the biblical context.

      • kablaamee says:

        Did god have 21st century marriage law in mind when he dictated the bible?

      • Brad Clarke says:

        this is nothing new. people lived together even in biblical times without being married. I hope and pray that this was not a condemning or attacking question towards her question.

      • Sherry Oles says:

        Thank you Brad,
        I am still a bit confused could you give me Book and verse to look at because I can’t find where it talks about what a marriage ceremony is supposed to be. Did they hold pieces of signed paper in Christs time when they were married ?? Or is that something more current times have created?? Thank you for any information you have.

      • Brad Clarke says:

        read this. Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman. Convenant is a binding contract or agreement.
        I hope this helps.

        Marriage [N] [T] [B] [S]
        was instituted in Paradise when man was in innocence ( Genesis 2:18-24 ). Here we have its original charter, which was confirmed by our Lord, as the basis on which all regulations are to be framed ( Matthew 19:4 Matthew 19:5 ). It is evident that monogamy was the original law of marriage ( Matthew 19:5 ; 1 Corinthians 6:16 ). This law was violated in after times, when corrupt usages began to be introduced ( Genesis 4:19 ; 6:2 ). We meet with the prevalence of polygamy and concubinage in the patriarchal age ( Genesis 16:1-4 ; 22:21-24 ; Genesis 28:8 Genesis 28:9 ; 29:23-30 , etc.). Polygamy was acknowledged in the Mosaic law and made the basis of legislation, and continued to be practised all down through the period of Jewish histroy to the Captivity, after which there is no instance of it on record.

        It seems to have been the practice from the beginning for fathers to select wives for their sons ( Genesis 24:3 ; 38:6 ). Sometimes also proposals were initiated by the father of the maiden ( Exodus 2:21 ). The brothers of the maiden were also sometimes consulted ( Genesis 24:51 ; 34:11 ), but her own consent was not required. The young man was bound to give a price to the father of the maiden ( 31:15 ; 34:12 ; Exodus 22:16 Exodus 22:17 ; 1 Samuel 18:23 1 Samuel 18:25 ; Ruth 4:10 ; Hosea 3:2 ) On these patriarchal customs the Mosaic law made no change.

        In the pre-Mosaic times, when the proposals were accepted and the marriage price given, the bridegroom could come at once and take away his bride to his own house ( Genesis 24:63-67 ). But in general the marriage was celebrated by a feast in the house of the bride’s parents, to which all friends were invited ( Genesis 29:22 Genesis 29:27 ); and on the day of the marriage the bride, concealed under a thick veil, was conducted to her future husband’s home.

        Our Lord corrected many false notions then existing on the subject of marriage ( Matthew 22:23-30 ), and placed it as a divine institution on the highest grounds. The apostles state clearly and enforce the nuptial duties of husband and wife ( Ephesians 5:22-33 ; Colossians 3:18 Colossians 3:19 ; 1 Peter 3:1-7 ). Marriage is said to be “honourable” ( Hebrews 13:4 ), and the prohibition of it is noted as one of the marks of degenerate times ( 1 Timothy 4:3 ).

        The marriage relation is used to represent the union between God and his people ( Isaiah 54:5 ; Jeremiah 3:1-14 ; Hosea 2:9 Hosea 2:20 ). In the New Testament the same figure is employed in representing the love of Christ to his saints ( Ephesians 5:25-27 ). The Church of the redeemed is the “Bride, the Lamb’s wife” ( Revelation 19:7-9 ).

  4. kablaamee says:

    No it really wasn’t. I totally agree that no legal document should be necessary for two people to be in a life-long commited relationship. My point is that if two people love each other, surely your god would look past the “legality” of the situation.

    • Brad Clarke says:

      what we think and what God says are two different things. It is not about the “legality”, it is out of respect, honor and obedience to God. We either accept the Bible as God’s word or we don’t. I understand the view, I have been in this boat. If we are truly honest before God, and humble ourselves before Him, He will tell you what is the right thing. I don’t ever want my word to be the end all. Compare your own situation with what Gods says, just be honest when you do it.

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