Let’s face it.. Sex is one of the most common tools Satan is using today. You see it everywhere you look.. tv, movies, commercials, even on teen nick… (which blows my mind), it is every where. It is was and still is intended for one purpose and one purpose only… MARRIAGE!
Marriage and Marriage Only
“Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4
Sex was designed by God and it is a great, joyful experience. However, it was and still is designed for marriage and marriage only. It is a bond that was created by God for a husband and wife to enjoy and to become one in.
Now I am going to get very personal, so bare with me. I too have fallen to this. And let me tell you from experience, that sex outside of marriage will cause you nothing but heartache. My oldest daughter was born outside of wedlock and I am still paying for that today. Our relationship has struggled and the conflict between her mother and I has been tested to the end.
“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.”
1 Corinthians 10:13
You might think that you are going to be with a person forever and so it is okay to given in to the passion of sex with your partner, but it is not… All to often, you hear stories of couples breaking it off shortly after the give in. Especially for young ladies.. Guys, are FULL of testosterone… and that makes us like wild beasts. So they will say and do anything to get what they “think” they need. And all to often the young girl is robbed of her innocence, left wondering what she did wrong. And the fact is, she did nothing wrong except giving in.
How far is too far?
Without getting graphic, it is very important to know what is too far when it comes to sharing affections with your boyfriend or girlfriend. So we are going to see what God’s Word says and then tackle it for today’s world..
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. ~ 1 Corinthians 7:1-7
Now what this is saying is, a mans body is not his own, but his wife’s and that a woman’s body is not her own, but her husbands. So what does this mean about how far you should go or not go? Well, again, without getting graphic, anything that causes you to expose or to be touched in a place that is meant for marriage is wrong. Why? Because you are stealing a precious part of you that was meant for your future spouse. So, what do you do if you are in a relationship that this is happening in? You end it… and flee, because as much as you like to think you have the power to stop it and say no, most likely you don’t if it is already happening. One thing always leads to another and before you know it, it is too late. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. ~ 1 Corinthians 6:17-19
Now let’s say you don’t get your partner pregnant, (or if you are a lady, become pregnant). What is the big deal then? How about this… STD’s (Sexually Transmitted Disease) Still not convinced? How about this, every time you have sex with someone, a piece of your DNA is left behind, never to be removed… So, everyone you have sex with, your partner has sex with too… and if you think about that, it is truly disgusting.
“…The body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body.”
1 Corinthians 6:13
Sex is also being used to distract and separate men and women from God. Pornography is rapidly becoming an addiction and it is so readily available anywhere and everywhere you turn. You don’t have to look very far for it, it is right on your tv, computer, and even your iphone or itouch… yeap.. I said itouch. And let me tell you, all it takes is one time and once the eyes see it, Satan uses that and replays it over and over making you want more. Now there are several reasons why this is wrong, but we are going to stick with the basics… One, if you are married, you are cheating on your spouse by viewing it. You say how is that? Lusting after someone who is not your spouse is adultery…. Two, if you are not married, you are stealing apart of you from you future spouse.
Sex is a gift from God, meant for a husband and wife to share and enjoy. It is one of the most enjoyable experiences you can have with one another, but only if you keep it between the confines of marriage. If you have fallen and you want to be restored.. you can. God is ready to forgive you.. He loves you and wants you to have this joy of sex, but only in His design… Marriage.
Father, please forgive me for giving in to my lustful desires and having sex outside of your design. Father, please restore me. Help me, oh Lord, to remember your teachings and what you have designed sex to be. Please help me to be strong when I am faced with the temptation to give in to my bodies desires. Amen!