Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
I am tackling this subject tonight for two reasons. The first being, there is a desperate cry going out all over the world for fathers to step it up. Our children need their dads more than ever. Especially, Godly fathers who will guide and direct them in the way they should go. Many people across our nation are calling for change. Change in government, changes in marriage laws, changes… well you name it, and people want change. Well in my opinion, the change that really needs to be made is right in the home. There are so many demands in this world for fathers these days, that most of them find it hard to balance their family life with work, social activities, etc… I want to break this scripture down to point out key statements for all of us fathers.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.
This is not only a command, it has with it a promise from God. In order for our children to obey us, there must be guidelines to follow and if those guidelines are broken, we must correct them in a Godly manner, that they might learn from there mistakes and grow, much like we grow when God corrects us. The Bible clearly states, that if we disobey God's commands on our lives, there will be consequences. But here is the kicker… how are children supposed to obey something they have never been taught to do? How are they supposed to know what is right, and what is wrong? Well the answer is… US! We are suppose to teach them. But how do we correct and teach if we ourselves are not living the life we are to lead by? We can't! We as men, need to ground ourselves in the Truths and the promises of the Word of God. Listen to the promise that He states here… "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." What an awesome promise… What this is saying is, that if we as parents raise our children with these basic principles, that they will not depart from it, they will embrace Truth and they will make your life alot easier, because they will obey you and respect and honor you for your teaching and corrections.
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. ~ Proverbs 13:24.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. ~ Eph 5:22-33
You may have noticed that I started with most men's favorite part of the bible, Wives, submit to your husbands. And yes I am going to start with that, but not like you think. All husbands want a wife that is submissive, but that does not mean slave like. What it means is that a woman is to respect her husbands calling as the head of the household. But how is a woman supposed to be "submissive" if the man she is supposed to be submitting to, is not submitting to his leader… God? Men, if you want a wife that respects you as the head of the house, you must be willing to submit to God's authority upon your life.
The second part of this is how we, as the husbands, are supposed to treat our wives. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Wow… now that is a commandment. Do you know how much Christ loves the church? With everything He is.. so much so, that He laid down His life for her. We are to cleanse her by washing her with the water of the Word of God, so that we may be able to present her without wrinkle or any blemish. Men, this is a great calling that we must obey. With more than 50% of marriages ending in divorce, we must take hold of this and cling to it. We must again, ground ourselves in the Word of God, so that we may lead our wives in the way they should go. This means not only praying with your wife and praying for her, but it means that you engage with her on God's word. The challenge is great, but our God is greater and has given us the blue print for success.
In closing, I tackled these to subjects together simply because they go hand and hand. Our marriages are role models for our children. What they see us do, they will most likely do when they get married. And the same can be said for the raising of our children… We must lead by example, and we must be willing to discipline them, out of love, to teach them right from wrong. Life holds many challenges and as we all know, the two hardest things we can do is to get married and to have kids. Both can be the greatest blessings in our lives, but only if we follow the instructions of the Lord.
5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. 7
Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and
when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.
~ Deuteronomy 6 1-25